Ep 5 - Grow With the Flow | What school and family didn't told you

Introduction

Have you ever wondered why, after so many years of school, you stepped into adult life feeling somewhat lost?
You knew how to solve complex equations, memorize historical dates, and even write long essays.
But when life knocked on your door, you were missing something fundamental, the ability to deal with real life.

You didn’t learn how to manage your emotions, how to build healthy relationships, how to handle money, how to react to failure, or even how to make decisions when everything is at stake.
And no, it’s not only the school’s fault.
In most cases, the family didn’t know how to teach it either.

We grew up believing that family is our first school of life and in theory, it is.
But here’s a hard truth: most families were never taught how to teach.
Our parents taught us what they knew, or what they thought they knew, based on their own experiences.
But if they themselves like most people never learned how to manage emotions, money, communication, or relationships,
how could they possibly have passed that on to us in a conscious way?

Many of us grew up hearing things like:
“Work hard, get good grades, and you’ll succeed.”
“Don’t talk about money, that’s rude.”
“Swallow your tears and be strong.”
“Do something useful, get off the couch; standing still won’t get you anywhere.”

These phrases, even when said with love, reflect an outdated model one based on fear and survival rather than growth and awareness.

Before blaming our families, we must understand that they probably did the best they could.
They were parents for the first time.
They are human, just like us, and equally imperfect.
But it’s often hard to see them as humans because we look at them through the eyes of a child and assume they should always have the answers.

When school focuses almost exclusively on academic content and the family, often lacking emotional or financial tools, reinforces the “work, obey, and don’t make waves” mentality,
the result is predictable:
people who are highly educated but emotionally fragile.
Adults capable of reciting physics formulas, but unable to manage a conflict at home or at work.
People with diplomas, yet buried in debt, or simply lost, unsure what their purpose really is.

In the end, we grew up without a map.
And most of us only realize that once life starts demanding payment,
the first job, where you discover your boss is imperfect (and so are you);
the first serious relationship that collapses from poor communication;
the first financial or emotional crisis that leaves you completely lost because no one ever taught you how to navigate it.